Why I don't want to quit my dreams now that I'm a Mom

Here is a photo of me with three other ladies for the "Royal Ladies Shoot". I was 7 months pregnant and felt really glamorous as most pregnant women feel everything but the opposite. The Universe was talking to me and I wasn't listening.I remember when I found out I was pregnant, the thought of it made my heart smile. I was elated with joy. Then I felt like I had to make changes in my life and make room for my new precious gift.I've always been an ambitious woman with many goals and milestones for myself. In 2008 I had a plans to start my own company, get my own show, find the love of my life and then down the line start a family. Well, that all happened in that order. I started my own company in 2009 and ValSecrets.com had become New York City's hottest new brand.  By the end of 09' I had signed a contract with the BBC to star in a show called Bama Belles that later aired on TLC by end of 2010. While the second episode of Bama Belles aires I have profound spiritual awakening and through that period I meet my my future fiance.  And so you're thinking, "that was easy"? It wasn't easy. I worked very hard to reach those goals, very hard. But at the same time, some might say it came easy. Yes, on the scale of the big picture, it did come easy . Other's might question, well did you do it or was it your destiny? Kind of like,  what came first the chicken or the egg?  In my view, things come easy when they are "meant to be". What do I mean by "meant to be" that the Universe has recognized your perfect work and aligns the circumstances for you to take the opportunity that you wished for, then be challenged and finally succeed. Otherwise, the Universe takes the offer away if it doesn't see you meeting it's invitation and following through.  The Universe is very generous and gives you all that you wish for, but you are tested to see if you can take on the preliminary challenges first. Today my website ValSecrets.com is minute version of what it was 3 years ago. The reason is because I haven't been clear as to how I wanted to live my life ever since I've had my spiritual awakening but most importantly have become a Mother. Due to my spiritual awakening, I have become very conscious as to what I do in my life as I know everything I do does effect my daughter's life today and tomorrow. It has been a huge discourse in my head as to what I need to do for myself, but most importantly for my family.  While I was pregnant I was asked to be interviewed and shoot for a feature in a NY Magazine and they asked about my plans for my future career. I had no idea if I was going to continue the "Mogulista" lifestyle or be a stay home Mommy.Seven months after my daughter's birth I face myself again and I know it's the Universe talking to me. I am so lucky that I have a gorgeous, healthy, bright baby girl (that I called out for many years) and I feel so extremely grateful. My priority is my baby and I would do anything for her, but I know that I have a calling in this lifetime and unfinished work.

My "DREAMS" are rattling around in my mind and my soul knows what has to be done. Like I said on Facebook the other day; "You have the power to change your life, you first must change how you think and feel about it and then you must trust the divine will." It's the intention we bring to our situation that can change our reality.  We Mommy's and even Daddy's mustn't give up on our dreams especially if you start to feel a void in your soul. You cannot ignore what the Universe is trying to tell you. Pay attention to the signs and they will lead you to the way. If you are scared or nervous to start again, just remember that fear kills all and nothing thrives in fear, nothing.I am inspired to do a video blog on this topic as so many women (and men) tend to lose their identity while being a parent. I will continue on this topic via YouTube.com/vispa317

My Facebook status rant about Facebook

QUESTION: If you didn't have Facebook, text messaging or email how many people would you be in contact everyday? Who really cares about you?

So is Facebook great for keeping in touch or is it just great to keep in touch on the surface. You know, click on "like", comment on a photo or facebook status and that is being in touch all the sudden. Do you really call and ask the person how they are and make plans to see them or just stop by their house and say hello? Does that happen anymore? I remember growing up, people would just stop by my parents house and we'd welcome them. It was so nice to see them face to face and catch up. Now that is the equivalent of a lame text message. Really? A text message? Technology wasn't meant for what we have become.

We have become social misfits. My cell phone shouldn't be called a phone. It should be called "social electronic pocket device". Do we even know how to make new friends on the outside world? Most of us here have at LEAST 1 person on facebook that you strictly know from facebook. What is that? Do you really need a total stranger to be your friend or do you just like them in your "friends list" so that they will like the stuff you post and vice versa? Some of you actually made friends with those total strangers and met them in person or speak to them on the phone. Great, but if facebook shutdown do you really think you can sustain that relationship? The big question is do we really have a deep relationship with one another or are we just acting like we do on these social networks?
There is stuff that I do like about Facebook; post images, comments or videos of things that are important to me that I'd like for you to see; but what does it do for my life to post at the end of the day? What substance has it brought to my life and to my family's life? I could be walking in nature, playing with my baby, or doing something human and healthful and not doing something that is pure nonsense.

We have to take a step back and realize that we have enslaved ourselves to our fb contact list, to the likes, to the comments, to the information on your newsfeed that is all just pixels of light shining through a plastic device. Where is the profoundness in all this? Where is the heart in all this?

A facebook "like" isn't enough anymore.

I welcome back to my life phone calls on my LAN Line, Face to face meetups, written letters, drop-by my home, send me photos of your kids so I can frame them, ask me how I am doing, Thanks you cards, and real hugs and kisses PLEASE!

LOVE,
Val

Astral Traveling, Golden Lotus, Golden Praying Hands, or just a dream?

Ever since my spiritual awakening 2 years ago I have had all kinds of non 3 dimensional "stuff" happen to me. After a spiritual, life changing, heart opening experience I had last week, lastnight's visions were quite beautiful.

It started that I went into bed with the lights off and I was still wide awake, and I had a vision of golden hands in prayer position with just the finger tips touching. The golden hands then opened slowly like a flower but to be more specific, like a lotus flower opening up which then the hands did turn into the lotus. The lotus was pink and white which then turned lavender and all these sort of lavender flowers would bloom off a tree but I was above the tree floating. I then was flying over tree tops and saw a hill and on that mosey hill was a golden statue. This golden statue was a man with a long robe, one of a holy man, with his arms to the side and a pyramid crown on his head. I then passed over this statue and kept going, which seemingly I believe I was in space where I saw a dancing golden light spark and then off of this light it became colorful prisms of light dancing in the dark, knowing that I was that light. I was in a state of bliss.


I was laying there completely still and not sleeping. I was having another spiritual experience that inches me closer to the "I am", to the source.

I woke up with so much love in me. It's such a blessing to awaken!

What is Love?

When you tell someone you love them, do you know what you are saying to them?

According to Wikipedia, "Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment.^[1] Love is also said to be a virtue representing all of humankindness, compassion, and affection —"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another".^[2] Love may describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one's self or animals"

That sounds just peachy doesn't it? Love is a noun according to the English Dictionary. Let me remind you what a noun is.

Noun A word (other than a pronoun) used to identify any of a class of people, places, or things (common noun), or to name a particular one of...

Why is love a noun? No one owns love. Love isn't a person, place or a thing. No one can bottle love. 

Love is a vibrational energy that is always there in the Universe and on our planet. This frequency is how everything in nature is born onto our planet. Love is all around us and we are a love frequency. The problem is that we humans actually lower our vibration when we don't feel love with our minds. Love is not something of the mind, nor is it of the heart. Your mind and heart can feel love, but so can the rest of your body. Therefore, your mind connects to your heart to say, "I love you", but to actually feel love does not come from the mind or of the heart.

You feel "love" when you can be yourself around someone and he likes and accept you as you are, then you are in harmony with him. That harmony is a vibration of love. You might recognize this and say "I love you" to the person. Now let's take it to the next level where being around someone will bring out your "Uber self" where you feel awakened senses and then this usually brings out this term, "I'm in love with you". So you don't really "love" the person, but you love how the person makes you feel. You enjoy connecting to that person because your vibration rises to the love frequency, which is basically a human's natural state. The problem is that you tend to stay in a lower vibration most of the time. Ultimately, that vibration is always there, you just have to access it. 

Best Highchair of 2013 in My Book

After weeks of looking for the perfect highchair for my daughter, I not only find the perfect highchair but the perfect 2 in one highchair to junior chair. Anastasia's new highchair the "Juice" by Mammas & Papas is just so sweet, pun intended. I just love it and so does she.

The features I was looking for;
1. Easy to clean
2. Modern design (not babyish)
3. Not bulky, doesn't take up a lot of room in kitchen
4. Easy to move around with wheels

The Juice is so easy to clean, small in size, easily movable without wheels, easy to build, useable till she's 5 years old, becomes a small chair, and it's not expensive at all. I obviously love the way it looks. The tray is easy to put on and off but not flimsy. My baby is 7 months old, is in the 75th percentile for her height and she fits in this highchair perfectly. In the Graco, Peg Perego, and any standard highchair my baby's chin was just an inch off of the tray, but with the Juice it reaches her properly around her chest.  I got more than I asked for.

The only thing that I didn't get that I asked for were the wheels, but I have to say that the chair is very light and easy to move around on the rubber pegged legs.

I am a fan of this chair, but it has some things I can see how some would say it's lacking in features.
The Juice is not for you if;
You like to put cheerios on the tray.
You need a highchair that folds.
You need a highchair from birth, on.
You need a highchair on wheels.

From a scale to 1-10, 1 being useless and 10 being perfect, I give it a 8.5.